Read the Room

Read the room.

That’s what my husband says when he feels like his emotional state is being ignored.

Spending a lot of time in close quarters with our nearest and dearest can be a test in comprehension. Filled with our own pressing needs and wants, we can lose track of what is going on with those around us. Practice LISTENING and LOOKING. What are the words? And what are the GESTURES that accompany the words. Take time to see the outline of bodies in space. Notice the lines on a forehead, the tightness around the mouth, a lip quiver or welling of tears. Take note of sparkling eyes and tiny smiles.

Use this heightened awareness to strengthen the muscles of non-verbal communication. The value of physical attentiveness grows more important by the day as more and more of our interactions take place online or in places of careful separation. Practice paying attention to your family members and then use those skills when you log into your next Zoom meeting or when you meet someone on the sidewalk or at the market.

We are here for you. Please reach out with questions or comments. We love hearing from you.

Be well,

Tanya and Wesley

THINK – How do you communicate your emotions without words?

TALK – Use your words to describe your emotions. I’m scared. I’m worried. I’m tired. I need space. Can we have this conversation later when I can be a better listener? Practice asking for what you need.

WRITE – Write a list of the feelings you had today. Where do you notice these feelings in your body? Be specific.

DO – Play emotional charades. Write specific feelings on slips of paper. Take turns acting out the feelings without using words.

BE – Using a mirror, take a long look at your face. What are you feeling? What does it look like?